{"id":717732,"date":"2020-08-05T22:35:50","date_gmt":"2020-08-06T02:35:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/churchanswers.com\/?p=717732"},"modified":"2020-08-05T22:35:50","modified_gmt":"2020-08-06T02:35:50","slug":"5-reasons-why-behavior-problems-pop-up-in-kids-ministry","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/churchanswers.com\/blog\/5-reasons-why-behavior-problems-pop-up-in-kids-ministry\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Reasons Why Behavior Problems Pop Up In Kids Ministry"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cI just can\u2019t do it anymore. The kids are out of control. I can\u2019t get them to listen. I don\u2019t think I\u2019m the best one to be serving in this spot.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Chances are high that you have heard this type of statement from a volunteer in your church. Dealing with children\u2019s behavior is a universal issue in children\u2019s ministry. <\/span>No matter the size, location, or denomination of your church, kids make poor behavioral choices.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

There are reasons why kids misbehave. When we identify these reasons, we can better understand how to minister to the kids in our church.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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    1. Leaders aren\u2019t prepared.<\/b>\u00a0 When working with children, downtime is of the devil. If there are gaps in classroom momentum, kids will fill those gaps and probably not in ways that you prefer. When leaders are fumbling over their lesson or having to stop to look for supplies, kids find the opportunity to engage in other behaviors.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
    2. Kids have unmet needs<\/b> – <\/span>It is very difficult for a child to feel motivated to participate if he is hungry and hasn\u2019t had breakfast. If a child was awake all night, she may act out. In order to learn and participate, kids need to feel safe, secure, and connected. By choosing to look beyond the behavior and identify unmet needs in the life of the child, we are showing grace that reflects the gospel of Jesus.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
    3. Unrealistic expectations – When we have expectations that are not realistic for the age group that we are serving, we set kids up to fail.<\/span> When kids fail to meet our expectations, we view that as misbehavior and we get incredibly frustrated. <\/span><\/b>If we expect a group of preschoolers to quietly sit in chairs for an hour or expect fifth graders to participate in \u201cbabyish\u201d activities, we are expecting behavior that is not in line with how God made their bodies. When we ask kids to perform tasks that are way too easy or way too difficult, we are often creating behavior problems.<\/li>\n
    4. Kids are bored –<\/b> Ouch. <\/span>Entertaining children is not our job, but our job is to make sure we don\u2019t bore them with the most amazing truth in the world.<\/span> When children are bored, they will find other ways to entertain themselves. Strive to have the most engaging lessons possible. Get kids out of their chairs. The more engaged they are, the fewer behavior problems you will encounter.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
    5. We all sin – <\/b>Romans 3:23 says, <\/span>\u201c<\/span>For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God\u2019s glorious standard.<\/span>\u201d Why do kids misbehave in your classroom? It is the gospel at work in your classroom. Every time a kid messes up it is a reminder that this is why Jesus came to die for us. Jesus came because none of us can obey all the rules. <\/span>Every time we address behavior it is an opportunity to point kids towards the gospel.\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      When we take the time to evaluate the \u201cwhy\u201d behind the behaviors we are seeing, we have the opportunity to adjust our approaches. We have the opportunity to improve the environment for both the kids and the volunteers, easing frustrations and providing more opportunities for kids to connect with God.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"When we take the time to evaluate the \u201cwhy\u201d behind the behaviors we are seeing, we have the opportunity to adjust our approaches. 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